Dear Mister And Mistress….

The Dilemma

I came across your blog and thought I’d throw this at you because I don’t really know that I am ready to talk to friends yet.

I’ve been married for just under 10 years, and haven’t really been happy for about 8 of those.  He is a lovely man, he has done nothing wrong but I just don’t feel a connection anymore.

I never questioned it until I met a man about 4 weeks ago that blew me away.  I never felt my husband wasn’t the one for me, until I felt this connection whom I met at a work function.

So i guess my question to you is, what do I do with these feelings?  


The words that I keep hearing when I read this is “life is too short”.  You owe it to yourself and to your current husband to allow yourselves to be happy and find your true soulmate.  It is pointless sleepwalking through your marriage and now you have tasted the sweetness that is available.  (Assuming that the feeling was mutually tasted.)  Can you really return to that bitter pill?


From experience, I would say talk to your husband.  I assume nothing has happened between you and this man, so make sure it stays that way before you have made a decision about your husband otherwise it will get complicated

Also, you don’t know how your husband is feeling.  Perhaps he is feeling the same thing?  Have a think about your future, as Mister says you need to sometimes be selfish, and it’s also not fair on him to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with him.  I would hate if someone stayed with me for the sake of it.